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Table of Contents
     Character Development
     Part 1: What To Teach
          List of Character Qualities (Newsletter #87)
     Part 2: How To Help Your Children
          Develop Godly Character
          1.  Provide Good Examples
          2.  Teach God's Word
          3.  Discipline Consistently
          4.  Teach About Character Qualities
          5.  Pray for Your Children
     Recommended Resources
          "Unlocking The Mysteries of Creation"
          SCI-TECH Hands-On Project Kits
          "For Instruction in Righteousness" from Doorposts
          Grapevine Studies Bible Curriculum
          Mr. Button Family Video
     Sunnyside Up: Humorous Anecdote

Greetings,

     In this issue we offer practical suggestions for helping
your children develop godly character.  It is a process that
involves you, your child, and the Lord.
     As parents, your part is to faithfully provide good
examples, teach God's Word, discipline consistently, teach about
character qualities, and pray for your children.
     Ultimately it is your child's relationship with the Lord, his own
choices, and his spiritual maturity that will determine his character.
     However, without the wisdom, strength, and working of the
Holy Spirit in the lives of both parents and children, no genuine
or lasting results will be achieved.

     But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience,
          kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.
          Galatians 5:22-23

     May the Lord bless you and your family for His glory as you
work to develop godly character in your children.

Cordially,
Pat, Sue, Heather, Holly, and Brian Welch
The Teaching Home is a 24-year-old, home-school family business.
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Character Development

Part 1:
What To Teach (Newsletter #87)
     List of Character Qualities (Including Qualities, Related
Characteristics, Definitions, Scripture References, and Character
Training and Spiritual Growth.)
http://www.teachinghome.com/newsletters/vol_2-no_87.cfm

Part 2:
How To Help Your Children
Develop Godly Character
Compiled by Cindy Short and Sue Welch, editors

     What your children become is more important than what they
learn.  This is why many home-school families consider character
training to be even more important than academics.  Also, a
child's character is being formed all day, every day, whether or
not we notice it.
     Because of the importance and scope of character training,
the whole of your family's life needs to include awareness of, and
focus on, character.  Below are some specific steps you can take
that will help you toward the goal of raising godly children. Home schooling is a virtual laboratory for instruction in
godliness. Character is developed within the sphere of the home.
Parents are available to provide crucial feedback. "Brandon, that
was very sweet to let your brother have the last cookie."
"Justin, that is not your best handwriting.  Remember, 'Whatever
your hand finds to do, do it with all your might'" (Ecc. 9:10).
These are opportunities to point your children to the Word of God
and high levels of personal excellence. - Sherri Evans

     Much of the information in this newsletter was taken from the
Summer 2000 back issue of The Teaching Home.  It contains a
12-page "Special Section" on Character Training & Social
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1.  Provide Good Examples
     The first and most powerful influence on character is
example -- both good and bad.  Constant vigil must be exercised
to uphold good examples and avoid (or point out) the bad.

Parents
     The example you yourself set is primary.  What an incentive
to take God's grace to live for Him and to acknowledge and
confess your faults before your watching and impressionable
children. Model good behavior for your children. Examine yourselves
and your responses and choices. Instilling good character
qualities into your children starts with you.  - Tammy Allgaier Examine your life and character. To teach character to your
children, it must be observable in your own life.  - Mark DeWitt Work and play together. It is hard to be an example for your
children if you are rarely together. Time together allows you to
find teachable moments when your child's spirit opens to share
confidences, ask questions, and seek instruction. - Debbie W.
Wilson I often use personal examples to show our children that I
also struggle in the same areas they do and to affirm that we are
colaborers together on the lifelong road of the Christian
life.  - Sherri Evans

Companions
     "Do not be deceived: 'Bad company corrupts good morals'"
(I Cor. 15:33).  Your children need to be under your supervision
(in both your sight and your hearing) to ensure they are not receiving
bad influences.
     One home-school mother traces a problem with her daughter
that has lasted many years to just one afternoon spent
unsupervised with a rebellious girl.  Many home-school families
do not allow their children to participate in sleepovers for
this reason. Look for likeminded friends who will reinforce your
standards. - Tammy Allgaier

Examples in Scripture
     God has given us many examples in Scripture, both good and
bad, for our edification and warning. Study Bible characters such as Noah, Joseph, Joshua, David,
or Daniel. What were their strong character qualities? How did
God honor that behavior? What were their weaknesses? What were
the consequences?  - Jill Moore Starting with Proverbs, we have read one chapter a day. Our
boys copied verses from the chapter, sometimes drew pictures to
go along with the verses, and memorized many of them. Everything
that you need to train your children is in the Bible.  - Sherri
Freeze

     Resource.  "Christian Ethics for Youth."  Topical devotional
and study book on Proverbs with illustrations, applications, and
workbook. http://www.storesonline.com/site/331083/product/551104

Examples in Stories and Literature

     Joy Marie Dunlap, a valued and long-time writer for The
Teaching Home, writes: All our children's reading material, even books to practice
reading, should be carefully selected for moral content as well
as teaching purposes.
     When a child reads about being popular, getting even,
resenting parents or siblings, quarreling, or focusing on
pleasure, he will think about these things.
     On the other hand, if your child reads about families that
love one another, help one another with life's loads, are honest
with one another, and work toward constructive goals, these are
the values that will take root in your child's heart instead.
     Parents should always comment on improper and damaging
behavior. Bad character should be shown in the story to have
damaging and regrettable results.
 *  I want to inspire our children to overcome sin with stories
of people who won battles with sin through God's power.
 *  I want to inspire our children's faith with stories of God's
provision for His people.
 *  I want to inspire our children to have right responses in
difficult situations with stories of people who show the way.
 *  I want our children to learn courtesy through books that
depict kind and courteous people.
 *  I want to instill the value of a constructive, loving life
through books showing what great good such a life can do.
     A tender conscience is a precious thing. Once seared, it is
never quite the same. One day our children will make their own
moral decisions, but God holds us accountable for the influences
we allow while our children are still in our care.
     Read Joy Marie's complete article, "Reading Shapes a Child's
Character," and other articles on character training at
http://www.teachinghome.com/supplement/index.cfm.
     Find more articles and resources by Joy Marie at
http://www.lighthome.net/index.html.

     Resource.  "School Days Devotional Praise." 150 daily
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Examples in Nature
     Look to nature to find desirable character qualities
illustrated (e.g., ants are diligent). Study Bible references to
animals and other things of nature.  - Jill Moore
     Resource.  Character Sketch books show how God's creation
demonstrates character. http://iblporg.notlong.com

Other Influences The effects of television, video games, books, movies, etc.,
must be monitored. Such activities have the potential to damage a
child's spirit. If parents are not careful, even home schooling
will not tip the scales in favor of godliness. Corrupting
influences must be minimized while godly character is ingrained.
- Sherri Evans
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 *  How God blesses the person who resists temptations and
     ideas for “rewards” and encouragement.
 *  Illustrations in stories and biblical characters.
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2.  Teach God's Word
     The statement that "the Scriptures are our sole authority
for life and practice" is not empty rhetoric.  God not only sets
the standards for our character in His Word, but also provides
the means to meet them.

     All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching,
          for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness;
     so that the man of God may be adequate,
          equipped for every good work.
          II Timothy 3:16-17

Regular Reading and Study of God's Word.
     To discover and understand the full message of Scripture,
systematic reading of the whole Bible is essential.
     The Teaching Home has designed a unique schedule for reading
the entire Bible in a year.  You can start any month and read six
days a week (allows for church on Sunday), four weeks per month
(24 days per month).  This gives you 4-7 days per month, counting
the Sundays, to catch up and stay on schedule.
http://www.teachinghome.com/supplement/bible/index.cfm So great is my veneration for the Bible that the earlier
my children begin to read it the more confident will be my hope
that they will prove useful citizens of their country and respectable
members of society.  I have for many years made it a practice to
read through the Bible once every year. -- John Quincy Adams

Memorize Scriptures.
     Memorize, review, and meditate on specific verses or passages
related to character qualities.  The list of character qualities in
newsletter #87 includes relevant Scripture.
http://www.teachinghome.com/newsletters/vol_2-no_87.cfm

Talk About Scripture in the Context of Daily Living.

     You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart,
          with all your soul, and with all your strength.
     And these words which I command you today
          shall be in your heart.
     You shall teach them diligently to your children,
          and shall talk of them when you sit in your house,
          when you walk by the way,
          when you lie down,
          and when you rise up.
          Deuteronomy 6:5-7
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3.  Discipline Consistently
     God has instructed parents to use consistent, loving, and
biblical discipline in training their children.

Standards
     Set clear and specific standards and explain the moral,
Scriptural, and practical reasons for them to your children. Discuss reasons for standards so your children understand
the importance of them in their lives. This helps children make
the standards their own.  - Tammy Allgaier

Consequences
     Negative consequences (both physical and nonphysical) for
noncompliance and positive rewards for obedience and coopertion
are appropriate; God offers us similar incentives.

     He that spareth his rod hateth his son;
          But he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
          Proverbs 13:24

     For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines.
          God deals with you as with sons;
     for what son is there whom his father does not discipline?
          Hebrews 12:6-7

     "Behold, I am coming quickly, and My reward is with Me,
          to render to every man according to what he has done.
          Revelation 22:12 Win your child's heart with demonstrated affection. Temper
affection with prompt, consistent, reasonable discipline.  It is
easy to ignore your child's good attitudes and actions while
promptly criticizing the bad. Rebuking your child's faults
without commending his virtues discourages him.
     Discipline, positive or negative, should be prompt.
Handling misbehavior immediately promotes peace in the home.
     Consistency teaches your child his limits. If you want
consistency in your children's character, you must be consistent
in your expectations.
     Punishment or reward should fit your child's actions. -
Debbie W. Wilson Discuss the natural consequences of sin.  We can use the
Bible and situations around us to explain to our children that
sin has painful results.  - Debbie W. Wilson

     Resource.  "For Instruction in Righteousness" contains
hundreds of verses on 50 areas of sin with suggested negative and
positive consequences, object lessons, and illustrations drawn
from Scripture.  http://www.doorposts.net/instruct.htm
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4.  Teach About Character Qualities

Character Curriculum or Books
     You might want to use a textbook, workbook, or curriculum,
or create your own for teaching character.

Resources
     KONOS Curriculum unit studies based on character
qualities.  http://www.konos.com
     Character Core Curriculum by Rick and Marilyn Boyer.
http://www.thelearningparent.com/products/products.cfm?cat=3
     Christian character books.
http://ChristianBookCharacter.notlong.com

Specific Areas
     Concentrate work on needed areas as they become
apparent in children's lives. Recognize that each child's personality has strengths and
weaknesses. Ask God for the wisdom to guide each child.  - Debbie
W. Wilson

Chart
     Use a chart with goals to provide accountability and record
success. We have successfully used a character star chart for over a
decade. When one of our children exhibits outstanding behavior,
we enthusiastically reinforce it. We verbally acclaim his act,
then write it down next to a star under his name.
- Lynette Driggers

     Resource. The Blessing Chart helps parents acknowledge and
reward godly attitudes and behavior.  The Brother-Offended
Checklist helps apply Jesus' teachings to resolve disagreements.
http://www.doorposts.net

Look for Teachable Moments Academic work presents numerous opportunities to address
such common childish follies as a bad attitude, rebellion,
laziness, indifference, procrastination, and poor time
management.  - Sherri Evans Correct your children when you see them exhibiting bad
character. Discuss the situation and ask how Jesus would want
them to act. Pray with them for help. Be just as quick to praise
children when godly character is exhibited.  - Jill Moore Teach one character quality per week. Explain the definition
and give examples that illustrate its meaning in action. If the
character quality is love, show examples from the Bible of God's
love for us and how we should be a reflection of His love. Next,
give examples of how to show love for family, for friends, for
strangers, for enemies, and for God.  - Mark DeWitt Have each family member keep a character notebook. Your
child should write out a definition of the character quality he
is working on. Use a thesaurus and find synonyms and antonyms
of the character quality. Creatively illustrate the character
quality. Your child can list or picture ways he can show the
character quality to others.  - Jill Moore
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5.  Pray for Your Children

     In this important area of character, we must pray for our
children, for their specific needs, and for wisdom and strength
to teach and train them.

     But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God,
          who gives to all generously and without reproach,
          and it will be given to him.  James 1:5

 *  Pray with your child when he has failed in some area for
     forgiveness and strength to do better next time.
 *  Pray about any specific problem that your child is struggling
     with at the moment.
 *  Teach your child to pray for strength and the way to escape
     when faced with a temptation.

     No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man;
          and God is faithful,
          who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able,
          but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also,
          so that you will be able to endure it.
          I Corinthians 10:13

 *  Pray as a family that you would all become more like the
     Lord Jesus for the purpose of pleasing Him and winning others
     to Him, not for personal praise and recognition.
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