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Table of Contents
1: What To Teach
List of Character
Qualities (Newsletter #87)
2: How To Help Your Children
Develop Godly Character
About Character Qualities
for Your Children
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In this issue we offer practical suggestions
your children develop godly character. It is a process that
involves you, your child, and the Lord.
As parents, your part is to faithfully provide
examples, teach God's Word, discipline consistently, teach about
character qualities, and pray for your children.
Ultimately it is your child's relationship
with the Lord, his own
choices, and his spiritual maturity that will determine his character.
However, without the wisdom, strength, and
working of the
Holy Spirit in the lives of both parents and children, no genuine
or lasting results will be achieved.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace,
faithfulness, gentleness, self-control.
May the Lord bless you and your family for
His glory as you
work to develop godly character in your children.
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What To Teach (Newsletter #87)
List of Character Qualities (Including Qualities,
Characteristics, Definitions, Scripture References, and Character
Training and Spiritual Growth.)
How To Help Your Children
Develop Godly Character
Compiled by Cindy Short and Sue Welch, editors
What your children become is more important
than what they
learn. This is why many home-school families consider character
training to be even more important than academics. Also, a
child's character is being formed all day, every day, whether or
not we notice it.
Because of the importance and scope of character
the whole of your family's life needs to include awareness of, and
focus on, character. Below are some specific steps you can take
that will help you toward the goal of raising godly children.
Home schooling is a virtual laboratory for instruction in
godliness. Character is developed within the sphere of the home.
Parents are available to provide crucial feedback. "Brandon, that
was very sweet to let your brother have the last cookie."
"Justin, that is not your best handwriting. Remember, 'Whatever
your hand finds to do, do it with all your might'" (Ecc. 9:10).
These are opportunities to point your children to the Word of God
and high levels of personal excellence. - Sherri Evans
Much of the information in this newsletter
was taken from the
Summer 2000 back issue of The Teaching Home. It contains a
12-page "Special Section" on Character Training & Social
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1. Provide Good Examples
The first and most powerful influence on character
example -- both good and bad. Constant vigil must be exercised
to uphold good examples and avoid (or point out) the bad.
The example you yourself set is primary.
What an incentive
to take God's grace to live for Him and to acknowledge and
confess your faults before your watching and impressionable
Model good behavior for your children. Examine yourselves
and your responses and choices. Instilling good character
qualities into your children starts with you. - Tammy Allgaier
Examine your life and character. To teach character to your
children, it must be observable in your own life. - Mark DeWitt
Work and play together. It is hard to be an example for your
children if you are rarely together. Time together allows you to
find teachable moments when your child's spirit opens to share
confidences, ask questions, and seek instruction. - Debbie W.
I often use personal examples to show our children that I
also struggle in the same areas they do and to affirm that we are
colaborers together on the lifelong road of the Christian
life. - Sherri Evans
"Do not be deceived: 'Bad company corrupts
(I Cor. 15:33). Your children need to be under your supervision
(in both your sight and your hearing) to ensure they are not receiving
One home-school mother traces a problem with
that has lasted many years to just one afternoon spent
unsupervised with a rebellious girl. Many home-school families
do not allow their children to participate in sleepovers for
Look for likeminded friends who will reinforce your
standards. - Tammy Allgaier
Examples in Scripture
God has given us many examples in Scripture,
both good and
bad, for our edification and warning.
Study Bible characters such as Noah, Joseph, Joshua, David,
or Daniel. What were their strong character qualities? How did
God honor that behavior? What were their weaknesses? What were
the consequences? - Jill Moore
Starting with Proverbs, we have read one chapter a day. Our
boys copied verses from the chapter, sometimes drew pictures to
go along with the verses, and memorized many of them. Everything
that you need to train your children is in the Bible. - Sherri
Resource. "Christian Ethics for
Youth." Topical devotional
and study book on Proverbs with illustrations, applications, and
Examples in Stories and Literature
Joy Marie Dunlap, a valued and long-time writer
Teaching Home, writes:
All our children's reading material, even books to practice
reading, should be carefully selected for moral content as well
as teaching purposes.
When a child reads about being popular, getting
resenting parents or siblings, quarreling, or focusing on
pleasure, he will think about these things.
On the other hand, if your child reads about
love one another, help one another with life's loads, are honest
with one another, and work toward constructive goals, these are
the values that will take root in your child's heart instead.
Parents should always comment on improper
behavior. Bad character should be shown in the story to have
damaging and regrettable results.
* I want to inspire our children to overcome sin with stories
of people who won battles with sin through God's power.
* I want to inspire our children's faith with stories of
provision for His people.
* I want to inspire our children to have right responses
difficult situations with stories of people who show the way.
* I want our children to learn courtesy through books that
depict kind and courteous people.
* I want to instill the value of a constructive, loving
through books showing what great good such a life can do.
A tender conscience is a precious thing. Once
seared, it is
never quite the same. One day our children will make their own
moral decisions, but God holds us accountable for the influences
we allow while our children are still in our care.
Read Joy Marie's complete article, "Reading
Shapes a Child's
Character," and other articles on character training at
Find more articles and resources by Joy Marie
Resource. "School Days Devotional
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devotions (with posters and a tape of songs) for grades 1-8.
Character-building stories of real children and Bible characters.
Examples in Nature
Look to nature to find desirable character
illustrated (e.g., ants are diligent). Study Bible references to
animals and other things of nature. - Jill Moore
Resource. Character Sketch books
show how God's creation
demonstrates character. http://iblporg.notlong.com
The effects of television, video games, books, movies, etc.,
must be monitored. Such activities have the potential to damage a
child's spirit. If parents are not careful, even home schooling
will not tip the scales in favor of godliness. Corrupting
influences must be minimized while godly character is ingrained.
- Sherri Evans
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2. Teach God's Word
The statement that "the Scriptures are our
for life and practice" is not empty rhetoric. God not only sets
the standards for our character in His Word, but also provides
the means to meet them.
All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable
for correction, for training in righteousness;
so that the man of God may be adequate,
every good work.
II Timothy 3:16-17
Regular Reading and Study of
To discover and understand the full message
systematic reading of the whole Bible is essential.
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So great is my veneration for the Bible that the earlier
my children begin to read it the more confident will be my hope
that they will prove useful citizens of their country and respectable
members of society. I have for many years made it a practice
read through the Bible once every year. -- John Quincy Adams
Memorize, review, and meditate on specific
verses or passages
related to character qualities. The list of character qualities
newsletter #87 includes relevant Scripture.
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You shall teach them diligently to your children,
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3. Discipline Consistently
God has instructed parents to use consistent,
biblical discipline in training their children.
Set clear and specific standards and explain
Scriptural, and practical reasons for them to your children.
Discuss reasons for standards so your children understand
the importance of them in their lives. This helps children make
the standards their own. - Tammy Allgaier
Negative consequences (both physical and nonphysical)
noncompliance and positive rewards for obedience and coopertion
are appropriate; God offers us similar incentives.
He that spareth his rod hateth his son;
But he that
loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
For those whom the Lord loves He disciplines.
God deals with
you as with sons;
for what son is there whom his father does
"Behold, I am coming quickly, and My reward
is with Me,
to render to
every man according to what he has done.
Win your child's heart with demonstrated affection. Temper
affection with prompt, consistent, reasonable discipline. It
easy to ignore your child's good attitudes and actions while
promptly criticizing the bad. Rebuking your child's faults
without commending his virtues discourages him.
Discipline, positive or negative, should be
Handling misbehavior immediately promotes peace in the home.
Consistency teaches your child his limits.
If you want
consistency in your children's character, you must be consistent
in your expectations.
Punishment or reward should fit your child's
Debbie W. Wilson
Discuss the natural consequences of sin. We can use the
Bible and situations around us to explain to our children that
sin has painful results. - Debbie W. Wilson
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4. Teach About Character Qualities
Character Curriculum or Books
You might want to use a textbook, workbook,
or create your own for teaching character.
KONOS Curriculum unit studies based on character
Character Core Curriculum by Rick and Marilyn
Christian character books.
Concentrate work on needed areas as they become
apparent in children's lives.
Recognize that each child's personality has strengths and
weaknesses. Ask God for the wisdom to guide each child. - Debbie
Use a chart with goals to provide accountability
We have successfully used a character star chart for over a
decade. When one of our children exhibits outstanding behavior,
we enthusiastically reinforce it. We verbally acclaim his act,
then write it down next to a star under his name.
- Lynette Driggers
Resource. The Blessing Chart helps parents
reward godly attitudes and behavior. The Brother-Offended
Checklist helps apply Jesus' teachings to resolve disagreements.
Look for Teachable Moments
Academic work presents numerous opportunities to address
such common childish follies as a bad attitude, rebellion,
laziness, indifference, procrastination, and poor time
management. - Sherri Evans
Correct your children when you see them exhibiting bad
character. Discuss the situation and ask how Jesus would want
them to act. Pray with them for help. Be just as quick to praise
children when godly character is exhibited. - Jill Moore
Teach one character quality per week. Explain the definition
and give examples that illustrate its meaning in action. If the
character quality is love, show examples from the Bible of God's
love for us and how we should be a reflection of His love. Next,
give examples of how to show love for family, for friends, for
strangers, for enemies, and for God. - Mark DeWitt
Have each family member keep a character notebook. Your
child should write out a definition of the character quality he
is working on. Use a thesaurus and find synonyms and antonyms
of the character quality. Creatively illustrate the character
quality. Your child can list or picture ways he can show the
character quality to others. - Jill Moore
5. Pray for Your Children
In this important area of character, we must
pray for our
children, for their specific needs, and for wisdom and strength
to teach and train them.
But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask
who gives to
all generously and without reproach,
and it will
be given to him. James 1:5
* Pray with your child when he has failed in some area for
forgiveness and strength to do better next
* Pray about any specific problem that your child is struggling
with at the moment.
* Teach your child to pray for strength and the way to
when faced with a temptation.
No temptation has overtaken you but such as
is common to man;
and God is faithful,
who will not
allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able,
but with the
temptation will provide the way of escape also,
so that you
will be able to endure it.
* Pray as a family that you would all become more like the
Lord Jesus for the purpose of pleasing Him
and winning others
to Him, not for personal praise and recognition.
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