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TABLE  OF  CONTENTS
How To Become a Godly Mother
     1.  Love the Lord God
     2.  Love Your Husband and Children
     3.  Teach and Train Your Children
     4.  Care for the Physical Needs of Your Family
     5.  Teach Others To Be Godly Wives and Mothers
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     Grapevine Studies Bible Curriculum
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     Christ-Centered Curriculum for Early Childhood
Sunnyside Up: Humorous Anecdote

Greetings!

     In this newsletter, we take a look at motherhood from
Scriptures with suggestions to help you joyfully fulfill the
important God-given roles for which mothers deserve special
honor.
     As summer approaches, and many home-school mothers will be
spending less time on academics.  This is a good time to work on
the foundations of your home.  "The wise woman builds her house."
(Proverbs 14:1)

     We extend a special thank you to those who contributed
thoughts about their own mothers in this issue.  We would like to
hear from you too!
     You are invited to contribute to this newsletter by submitting a
note of encouragement to your fellow home educators, a teaching
tip, a recommended website, a family photo and brief story, or
humorous anecdote.  We will send you a back issue of your choice
of The Teaching Home magazine as a thank you for any submission
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     Please tell a friend about this free newsletter.  They will thank
you for it.

     May the Lord bless you and your family for His glory.

Cordially,
Pat, Sue, Heather, Holly, and Brian Welch
The Teaching Home is a 23-year-old, home-school family business.

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How To Become a Godly Mother
     A review of the basic goals of a mother will help you
prioritize your efforts, inspire you with spiritual motivation,
and give you clear direction as you go about the myriad tasks you
do each day.
     We have grouped the responsibilities of mothers under the
following five goals in order to organize our thinking and help
us grasp the big picture.

   1ST GOAL:
   To Love the Lord God
     As a person, you are to love the Lord above
all and put Him first in your life.  Obedience
to this most important of God's commands enables
you to keep everything else in perspective -- and
as mothers, you know how necessary that is!
     "'What commandment is the foremost of all?' Jesus answered
'The foremost is, you shall love the Lord your God with all your
heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind, and with
all your strength.'"  (Matthew 12:28-29)


     The more you know about the Lord, His love, and His promises
to you, the more you will love Him.  You will grow to love Him
more as you spend time with Him in meditating on His Word, His
wonderful attributes, and His goodness to you.
* Schedule time to be with the Lord and make it a high priority.
   A regular private time and place is a necessity.
* You can also read, quote or meditate on Scripture with your
   family throughout the day, and fill your home with godly music.
   These things will help you focus on the Lord and help prevent the
   world from pressing you into its mold in so many ways.
* It often helps to have a friend that will pray for you and
   provide accountability for you if you have not already
   established this all-important habit of time with the Lord.

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   2ND GOAL:
   To Love Your Husband and Children
     As a wife, a mother is to love, reverence, submit to
and be faithful to her husband.  A mother is also to love
her children in a way that includes, but goes beyond,
natural affection.  As always, God's commands in these areas are
for both His glory and our good.  When your home is filled with
love, everything you have to do will be easier.
     Ephesians 5:22, "Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as
to the Lord."
     Titus 2:4, "That they may encourage the young women to love
their husbands, to love their children."

Forgive
     When the Lord tells us to "be kind to one another, tender
hearted, forgiving one another" it is because He knows others
will do and say things to us that we need to forgive "just as God
for Christ's sake has forgiven you." (Ephesians 4:32)  If you
hold grudges, you cannot really love.

Show Love
     Love is shown by sacrificing to meet someone else's need.
Gary Chapman, in "The Five Love Languages," suggests the
following practical ways of showing love.

   1.  Words.  On a regular basis, write notes or tell your
husband and children out loud how much you love them, how
important they are to you, and how much you appreciate certain
attributes or actions.  The more specific your words, the more
meaningful they are.  Establish the habit of saying something
kind to each member of your family every day, and let them hear
you praising them to others as well.

   2.  Time.  Spend time focusing on your husband or one child at
a time and his needs and interests.
* Spend the first few minutes with your husband when he gets
   home.
* Schedule time alone, even 5-10 minutes, with each of your
   children each day (as they help you with one of your chores or
   errands, etc.).
* Enjoy time together as a family.  Find 18 ideas at
   http://www.teachinghome.com/newsletters/vol_2-no_60.cfm

   3.  Gifts.  Small, thoughtful gifts can show and remind
your family that you love them.


     "One thing I appreciate about my mother is the fact that she
has taken the time to make each of my nine siblings and me our
own unique quilts.  Each quilt is different and creative; some
are made of old jeans, others are made of colorful strips of
fabric, and one even has an appliquéd clothesline complete with
real baby clothes! Each one is inscribed with a special message
and serves as a reminder of our mother's love and the love our
heavenly Father has for us as He carefully crafts a place for us
in the vast tapestry of His world." -- Mallory Rascher

   4.  Acts of Service.  Do one of your husband's or children's
chores, run an errand, or do something small like sewing on a
button or mending a garment, noticing something he needs and
bringing it to him, etc.


    "One of my fondest memories of my mother is that she would
do the dishes for me after dinner while I played the piano.  She
said she liked to hear me play, but I look at it as a sacrifice
for her child to encourage me to practice.  When I remember this,
it reminds me to do similar things for our children." -- R.M.

   5.  Physical Touch.  Hugs, kisses, and other physical
demonstrations of affection are appropriate between family
members.


     Read more in "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.
http://www.christianbookclearinghouse.com/fivlovlanboo.html

Love Busters
     What is the opposite of showing love?  Dr. Willard F.
Harley, author of "His Needs, Her Needs,"  identifies the most
common "love busters" in marriage (or any relationship) as
selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts,
annoying habits, independent behavior, and dishonesty.
     In Dr. Harley's Marriage Builders website, you will be
introduced to some of the best ways to overcome marital conflicts
and some of the quickest ways to restore love.
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/index.html

A Home Filled with Love
     A home filled with love for God and each other is an
obtainable goal that we should not give up on.
* You might need the courage to sweep your home clean of ungodly
   influences and limit too much time outside it before it can be
    filled with love, joy, and peace (Galatians 5:22-23).
* You definitely need to put on the whole armor of God (Ephesians
   6:10-18) because Satan is especially targeting the family.
* You might need to establish discipline (see below) and retrain
   bad habits before you are able to maintain a home filled with love.

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   3RD GOAL:
   To Teach and Train Your Children
     A mother has many duties, and the urgent (physical
needs and crises) often seems to overshadow the important
(spiritual training, character development, and education).

Spiritual Training

1.  Knowledge of Scripture That Leads to Salvation
     Teach your children the truths of the whole Bible, starting
in Genesis with creation and ending in Revelation with the new
heaven and earth.  Introduce them to Jesus through His own words
and actions in the Gospels to lead your children to the Lord so
that they accept His salvation.
     Matthew 19:14, "But Jesus said, 'Let the children alone, and
do not hinder them from coming to Me; for the kingdom of heaven
belongs to such as these.'"
     II Timothy 3:15-17, "And that from childhood you have known
the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for
salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.  All Scripture
is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine,
for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness,
that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for
every good work."


* Pray that your children will accept the Lord as their Savior
   as soon as they are able and that you will know when and how
   to talk to them about salvation.
* At the right time speak to your child about his need of a
   Savior and how he can personally accept the Lord Jesus Christ.
* Read "How to Lead Your Child to Christ."
   http://www.family.org/pplace/toddlers/A0024595.cfm

2.  Love and Obedience to the Lord
     Teach your children to love and obey the Lord by helping them
get to know Him and what He tells them to do in His Word.


* Schedule regular Bible reading and discussion -- more than once
   a day if possible.  For example, read a Psalm at the breakfast
   table, work on a memory verse after lunch, and have family Bible
   reading with Father.
* As soon as your child can read, encourage him to read from
   God's Word on his own at a certain time each day.  (You could
   have him read it aloud to you for a while until he establishes
   the habit.)
* Model Bible reading by letting your children see or know when
   you are reading God's Word.
* Most importantly, show a love and desire to know God and respond
   to His message to you.  Your attitude will make a life-long impression.
* Pray for your children's spiritual growth and strength
   throughout their lives.

3.  Obedience and Honor for Parents
     Teach your children to honor and obey their father and
mother in obedience to the Lord and so that they will receive His
blessing of a long and good life.
     You might be tempted to think that it is self serving to teach
your children to obey and honor you, but it is for their benefit.
You do yourself, your children, and their future families a grave
disservice if you do not teach and require obedience and respect.


* Teach your child what God says about obeying and honoring their
   parents.  (Exodus 20:12; Ephesians 6:1-3)
* Have your children memorize pertinent verses.  For example,
   "Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to
   the Lord." (Colossians 3:20)
* Discuss ways of honoring parents in word and deed.
* Model honoring your own parents by your actions and words, even
   if they live far away or are no longer living.


     "I like to remember my parents who are in heaven now, by
talking about them on their birthdays and Mother's and Father's
days.  I tell our children different things about them as I think
of them throughout the year as well." -- S.W.

4.  Discipline and Training
     The discipline and training of our children are clearly
ordained by God as duties of both parents.
     "My son, observe the commandment of your father and do not
forsake the teaching of your mother." (Proverbs 6:20)
     "The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child who gets his
own way brings shame to his mother." (Proverbs 29:15)


* Establish child discipline and training in agreement with your
   husband.
* Study what God says about requiring obedience and then
   present to your children a set of clear rules with consequences.
* See "10 Elements of Child Training" at
   http://www.teachinghome.com/newsletters/vol_2-no_45.cfm


     "What the Bible Says about Child Training," an excellent
book by J. Richard Fugate.  Also available is a video set, an
audio set, and Spanish translation. For ordering information and
excerpts see http://www.rfugate.org/bookstor.htm#What
     Doorposts offers sound and practical helps in applying
Scripture to the discipline and training of your children.
http://www.doorposts.net
     Video and Audio Tapes by Dr. S.M. Davis.
http://www.SolveFamilyProblems.com

Education
     Home schooling is an excellent way to follow God's command:
"You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of
them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and
when you lie down and when you rise up." (Duet. 6:7)

Some Advantages of Home Education
* All subjects can be taught from a Christian perspective.
* The superior teaching method of one-on-one tutoring can produce
   excellent results.
* You can provide moral and spiritual protection for your children.
* Your children will have opportunity for independent study of their
   interests.

Some Goals of a Good Christian Education
* Ability to read and understand God's Word (phonics, reading).
* Enabling your child to serve the Lord and others (including his
   future family) more effectively (math, life and job skills).
* Giving him more appreciation of the Lord's working in nature
   (science) and nations (history).
* Gaining the ability to tell forth the Gospel and proclaim God's
   Word (speech, writing, art, music).


* Concentrate on the basics: reading, writing, and math.
* Teach subjects such as science, history, and Bible to all of your
   children together with individual assignments on their own levels.
* A solid Christian curriculum can save you a lot of work putting
   together your own, but you can feel free to incorporate a variety
   of other methods and materials as well.
* Inspire your children to enjoy and be excited about learning
   together.  Motivation is wind in the sails to move you along
   faster and easier.

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Christ-Centered Curriculum for Early Childhood---and Beyond
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   4TH GOAL:
   To Care for the Physical Needs
   of Your Family
     The physical needs of your family can be
overwhelming, but organization and perspective
will bring them into your control.  We can serve
these physical needs of our family as unto the Lord.
     "Then the righteous will answer Him, saying, 'Lord, when did
we see You hungry and feed You, or thirsty and give You drink?
When did we see You a stranger and take You in, or naked and
clothe You?  Or when did we see You sick, or in prison, and come
to You?'  And the King will answer and say to them, 'Assuredly, I
say to you, inasmuch as you did it to one of the least of these
My brethren, you did it to Me.'"  (Matthew 25:37-40)


     It is not impossible for you to become the model wife as
presented in Proverbs 31 if you:
* Are good and virtuous, loving and obeying the Lord.
* Are trustworthy and loving to your husband.
* Are a willing and hard worker in managing and cleaning your house
   (organization and children's chores help too).
* Manage and live well within your budget.
* Make yourself strong and healthy (many of us need to lose
   weight to be able to serve our family better and longer).
* Give to the poor and needy.
* Provide adequate clothing for your family (sewing or thrift
   stores help the budget).
* Speak with wisdom and kindness in teaching your children and
   younger women (see below).
_____________________________________________

   5TH GOAL:
   To Teach Others To Be Godly
   Wives and Mothers
     God also tells the older women to teach the
younger mothers to love their husbands and children
(Titus 2:3-5).  This would include teaching our own daughters
to be godly wives and mothers -- by word and example.


     "My mother is a woman of few words and I have learned that
'you can say more by not saying anything at all.'  I wish I had
the self-control to hold my tongue as she does." -- Kathryn H.


     "Polished Cornerstones" offers hundreds of ideas for Bible
study, reading, and everyday activities to help prepare your
daughters for godly womanhood.  http://www.doorposts.net
     "Keepers at Home" is a program providing a system for
children (at home or in a group) to learn new home and family
skills, with an emphasis on Christian values.
http://keepersathome.notlong.com

Help and Support
     Can you become a godly mother in your own strength?  That,
of course, is a rhetorical question.  Our loving Lord will give
the wisdom and strength needed for this task if we call upon Him
for help!  (James 1:5; Col. 1:9-11)
     Read more about the support we can find from the Lord, our
family, and friends at
http://www.teachinghome.com/newsletters/vol_2-no_49.cfm

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Sunnyside Up: The Complete Opposite
          One day our five-year-old daughter was making a card and
asked how to spell "open" to write on the front of it.  I told
her, then thought that this would be a good time to teach her about
opposites.  I explained to her that an opposite is something that
is totally different from something else.
     She went away for a few moments, before we had a chance to
tell her that the opposite of open was close.  When she returned
with "NEPO" written on the paper, she asked if nepo was the
opposite of open.
     Submitted by Lisa K., Hawaii

God Loves You.
     Because we were separated from God by sin, Jesus Christ died
in our place, then rose to life again.  If we trust Jesus Christ
as our Savior and Lord, He will give us eternal life.
     "For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that
not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of
works, that no one should boast" (Ephesians 2:8, 9).
     http://www.TeachingHome.com/about/salvation.cfm

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