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     The Teaching Home E-Mail Newsletter #45
     Information, Inspiration, and Encouragement


     August 12, 2003 / Cindy Short and Sue Welch, editors



Table of Contents

How To Establish Child Training, Discipline,
and Family Responsibilities

     10 Elements of Child Training
     Child Training Resources
     7 Ways To Teach Responsibility through Chores
Recommended Resources
     Northstar Academy
     The Times and Scriptures
     Keystone National Highschool
     The Teaching Home Back Issues
Sunny Side Up: Humorous Anecdote
Greetings,

     One of the most beneficial preparations that you can make for your home school this year is to establish, or reaffirm, basic child training, discipline, and family responsibilities.
     Our loving Lord will give the wisdom and strength of will needed for this task if we call upon Him for help!

Cordially,
Pat, Sue, Heather, Holly, and Brian Welch
The Teaching Home is a 22-year-old, home-school family business.



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How To Establish Child Training, Discipline,
and Responsibilities


     One of the saddest reasons given for not home schooling is that the parents cannot work with their own children.
     A child who has been properly trained and disciplined will respect his parents and respond to their teaching.
     Gaining their child's respect and obedience through proper relationships, discipline, training, and example should be the parents' top priority, whether or not they are home schooling. Home schooling can provide both the incentive and the optimum setting to accomplish this.

10 Elements of Child Training

1. Know and Teach what God Says.
* Parents need to know that God expects them to train and discipline their children. "Chasten you son while there is hope . . . ." (Proverbs 19:18). ". . . bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4).
* Children need to know that God expects them to honor and obey their parents. "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother . . . ." (Ephesians 6:1-2).
* Thoroughly teach your child God's Word. "All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness" (II Timothy 3:16).

2. Require Obedience.
* Get your child's attention before giving him an instruction.
* Your child should meet your eyes and answer, "Yes, Mother/Father."
* Require instant, willing obedience.
* Consistency is the key. Your children must know you mean what you say.
* Affirmation should follow obedience and cooperation.
* Negative consequences are appropriate when a child disobeys or rebels.

3. Set Limits.
* Explain to your child that the limits you place on him are for his care, protection, and training.
* As your child matures, increase his freedoms within safe boundaries.

4. Make Clear Rules.
* Make sure your child knows the basic rules of your home.
* Require your child to remember and obey these rules without supervision. This will build the habits of right behavior, and develop self-control.

5. Explain Moral Principles.
* Use Scripture to show your child the principles behind your rules. This helps children internalize and adopt these values for their own.

6. Examine Motives.
* Help your child to understand his true motives (e.g., anger shows an area of our life that is not yielded to God). This can lead to a conviction of sin and ultimately to repentance and salvation.

7. Lead Your Child to Salvation.
* Your child's eternal salvation is the most important aim of Christian training.
http://dvlp.family.org/pplace/toddlers/a0024595.cfm
* Only after your child is born again, can God's Spirit within produce true godly character.

8. Inspire Your Child to Dedicate His Life to God.
* Communicate and demonstrate your own love and dedication to the Lord.
* Daily study of God's Word, solid Bible preaching, avoidance of worldly pleasures and influences, and godly examples can all inspire your child to dedicate his own life to God.
* Your child will then seek to please God and so receive his parents' instruction for the Lord's sake as well as out of love for you.

9. Stimulate Initiative.
     Challenge your children to develop the inner motivation that leads to taking initiative in:
* Meeting others' needs.
* Seeking wisdom and knowledge from God's Word, parents, and every source of truth.

10. Aim for Christlikeness.
* Hold up Christ's example of love, purity, humility, obedience, and service.
* Read and memorize Scriptures about Christ's character.
* This final goal prepares our children to train their own children, minister in the church, and be effective ambassadors for Christ.



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Child Training Resources

Nov./Dec. 1999 Teaching Home Back Issue
with a 13- page Special Section on "Family Relationships."
http://theteachinghomen.goemerchant7.com

I just finished reading the Nov./Dec. 1999 issue of The Teaching Home, and it was an answer to prayer! Thank you for this issue on Family Relationships. It encouraged me in areas that I already knew I wanted to implement.
     The most important area, however, was the specific outline of ideas and Bible verses that I actually carry out straight from the page.
     The articles gave me the biblical plan for our children's relationships that I have been searching for. I plan to use the included Bible verses for our memory work, the ideas behind them for our devotions, and then follow up by admonishment with the verses when needed. -- Karen B., Virginia
"What the Bible Says about Child Training"
An excellent book by J. Richard Fugate. Also available are a video set, an audio set, and Spanish translation. For ordering information and excerpts see
http://www.rfugate.org/bookstor.htm#What

Growing Families International.
Books and online articles.
http://www.gfi.org/java/index.jsp

Video and Audio Tapes by Dr. S.M. Davis
Biblical solutions to family problems are offered through 70 videos and 82 audio tapes.
http://www.SolveFamilyProblems.com

Hints on Child Training by H. Clay Trumbull.<BR> Unabridged audio book. Fortified with common sense and Biblical wisdom, Trumbull's straightforward guide has established its place as a classic work in the field of child rearing.
http://www.blackstoneaudio.com/audiobook.cfm?ID=1552&AFF=1089

Online Articles
* "Using the Word of God to Lay the Foundation for Family Relations and Child Training" by Katherine Johnson.
http://www.teachinghome.com/supplement/novdec99/foundation.cfm
* "Rules for Maintaining Order" by Joy Marie Dunlap.
http://www.teachinghome.com/supplement/novdec99/rules.cfm



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7 Ways To Teach Family Responsibility through Chores

     Each member of the family can and should have responsibilities that make a contribution to the success of the whole family.
     We can use chores as double duty -- to keep our homes running efficiently and to teach our children responsibility.
     While it is never too late, the younger you start training your children to work, the better.

1. First, Teach Your Children what God Says about Work.
     Do a Bible study using the references listed. They provide positive and negative examples and motivations to work. Genesis 1:26, 28; 2:15; 3:19; Exodus 20:9; Psalm 128:2; Proverbs 10:4, 5; 12:11; 13:4; 14:23; 20:13; 26:13-16; 28:19; 31:10-31; Ecclesiastes 5:12; 9:10; Acts 20:34, 35; Ephesians 4:28; I Thessalonians 4:11, 12; II Thessalonians 3:10-13.

2. Set High Expectations & Attitudes.
     Be aware that you may unconsciously pass on to your child your mentality, or set of presuppositions, about work.
* Wrong: Children should only play and please themselves throughout their childhood.
* Wrong: Children cannot help but be selfish and unhelpful.
* Wrong: Work is an undesirable activity and is a punishment.
* Correct: Everyone should contribute to the well-being of all, no matter what their ages and ability levels are.
* Correct: Work can be fun. We can make a game out of putting things away and helping.
* Correct: It is a privilege to have the ability to work.

3. Teach Your Child How To Work.
* Take time to teach your child how to do a specific chore by explaining and modeling it for him and then observing him do it.
* Make chore cards with the name of the chore on one side and the necessary steps and cleaning agents on the back.

4. Build a Ramp of Responsibility.
     Your child will go from being completely dependent at birth to being responsible for his own family in about 20 years. Make a gradual ramp for him to climb by gradually assigning more responsibility as he matures.
* Assign reasonable chores for each person in your family and specify when the work is to be done.
* A chart or card system is very helpful.
http://www.doorposts.net
* Toddlers can pick up toys and clothes, as well as carry things for you.
* Young children can do simple chores such as set the table, make a bed, help dry or put away dishes, fill a pet's dish, clear his own dishes after a meal, and fold and put away laundry.
* Older children and teens can do laundry and dishes, do lawn work, cook, and care for, or help teach, younger siblings.

5. Work Together.
     Children learn best from parents who are closely involved with them in work, play, conversation, study, and all of life.
* Young children especially love to be with you and work with you.
* Do chores together at the same time to avoid a feeling of resentment when one child works while others do not.
* Learn to have a good time working together, listening to music, singing, or having someone read to you while you work.
* Family goals with family rewards encourage harmony, teamwork, and responsibility.

6. Provide Incentives.
     While acknowledging that some work is expected of each family member to maintain the home, incentives can also give a little extra motivation.
* Systems that include both positive and negative incentives emphasize responsibility in all areas of life.
* Change systems of incentives from time to time to keep interest up.
* Award payment (or points) for responsibilities reached and fines (or decreased points) for those not done.
* Use an "Earn Me" system for extra work. Tape a coin to a card describing the job for someone to claim.

7. Train Children To Go the Second Mile.
     Instead of having problems of "fairness," teach your child to exemplify a spirit of love in serving others.
* Ask your children to fill in for one another when one child is sick.
* Encourage your children to help each other with their work.
* Discourage an attitude of "that's not my job."
* Help your children find ways to volunteer to help others in need.

     Many of the above ideas were excerpted from an online article by Joy Marie Dunlap. Read the complete article at:
http://www.teachinghome.com/supplement/summer00/training.cfm



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