I Used To Be
by Rowena K. Lewis
This beautiful poem has been one of our
She came tonight as I
sat alone, the girl I used to be.
And she gazed at me
with her earnest eye, and questioned
Have you forgotten the
many plans and hopes that I had for you?
The great career, the
splendid fame, all the wonderful things to
Where is the mansion
of stately height, with all of its gardens
The silken robes that
I dreamed for you, and the jewels in your
And as she spoke, I
was very sad, for I wanted her pleased with
This slender girl from
the shadowy past, the girl that I used to be.
So gently rising, I
took her hand, and guided her up the stair
sleeping, my babies lay, innocent, sweet, and
And I told her that
these are my only gems, and precious they are
That silken robe is my
motherhood, of costly simplicity.
And my mansion of
stately height is love, and the only career I
Is serving each day in
these sheltered walls, for the dear ones who
come and go.
And as I spoke to my
shadowy guest, she smiled through her tears
And I saw that the
woman that I am now, pleased the girl that I
used to be.
Copyright 1997 Rowena K. Lewis. Used
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In This Issue
Nurturing Our Children
1. Cherishing Our Children
2. Showing We Care through
3. Bringing up Our Children for
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Cherishing Our Children
As mothers, we have cherished the
special connection with our children that
gave them life and form before they were born
and that nourished them as babies.
We held them, soothed them, guided and
taught them as toddlers, and delighted in
their growth as they began to understand and
communicate with us in words.
As Christian mothers, we are in a position
to supply the even more essential life-giving
Word of God to our children.
And as home schoolers, we have almost
unlimited opportunities to communicate our
own love and guidance, as well as the
Lord’s, as our children grow into
We didn’t imagine, in the beginning,
that a time could come when the distance
between us and our children would be, not
only great, but seemingly unbridgeable.
Yet that is what happens all too often.
What can we do to preserve and maintain
the vital connection with our children that
God has ordained to bless them throughout
This Mother’s Day, let us
prayerfully consider ways we can connect
one-on-one with each of our children and use
that close and positive connection to
influence our children for the Lord.
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Showing We Care through Closeness
1. Talk Together
It’s easy to get so busy meeting
physical and academic needs that we forget to
communicate the full range of our thoughts
and feelings to our children. They
begin to see us only as servants, teachers,
and bosses, and develop wrong perceptions
about our motives.
Yet it is in the context of our lives that
our teaching has the most meaning. We
must not make the assumption that our
children understand who we really are just
because they are with us every day.
Words have power; use them well to open
the windows of your heart to your children.
Take the opportunity to visit with your
children while your are driving, working
together, walking ("You shall ... talk of
[God's Word] ... when you walk by the way"
Deuteronomy 6:7), or just sit down and have
Equally important is the need to listen to
our children. You will need to help
them express themselves by asking questions
that draw them out and by giving them
feedback that clarifies their meaning.
2. Work Together
A mother may be able to do all the chores
in half the time it takes for her children to
do them, but such a policy is self-defeating
on several levels.
• Some day she
will need help that is already trained and
experienced to take her place—even if
only for a day or week.
• Her children
will need these life skills for themselves as
• Her children
will be lacking the sense of accomplishment,
habit of contributing to the household, and
training in disciplined perseverance at
menial tasks that regular chores can give
them. ("He must labor, performing with his
own hands what is good, so that he will have
something to share with one who has need."
• Last, but not
least, is the camaraderie and feeling of
partnership a mother can have with her
children when they work together.
3. Play Together
Find at least one activity that you can
enthusiastically enjoy with each of your
children and don’t let a week go by
without meeting a set quota of fun together.
You might walk with one, drive with
another, do puzzles or games, cook or sew or
read or sing – it just has to be fun for
both parent and child.
Playing together as a family will also
bring you all closer to each other. Our
family likes Bananagrams,
a free-form Scrabble-like game that everyone
builds at the same time (no long waits for
4. Pray Together
Take a minute or five to pray with each
child at bedtime or the beginning of the day
or start of an activity.
Agree together to take God’s grace
for each of your concerns,
specifically. In doing so you
acknowledge your own understanding and care
for your child and your dependence on God's
strength and wisdom.
5. Stay Together
Little spots of friction, hasty words,
misunderstandings, disappointments, and
conflicts of all kinds can cause your
relationship with your children to grow cool
and distant. In time, resentment can
build a wall between you or lead to all-out
To prevent this, keep short accounts on a
daily or hourly basis. Be quick to
apologize, forgive, and seek reconciliation
as soon as you are aware of the need.
("Do not let the sun go down on your anger."
Even when you must reprove, rebuke, or
correct, do your best to communicate your
lasting love and care for your child’s
wellbeing through all five "love
languages" – words of affirmation,
quality time, gifts, acts of service, and
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Bringing up Our Children for the Lord
A Christian mother recognizes the
priorities of spiritual training and
character development amid the duties and
demands of daily life.
For I am mindful of the sincere faith within
which first dwelt in
your grandmother Lois
and your mother
and I am sure that it is in you as well.
(2 Timothy 1:5)
1. Lead Your Children to Christ
through Knowledge of
• Teach your
children the truths of the whole Bible,
starting in Genesis with creation and ending
in Revelation with the new heaven and earth.
• Introduce your
children to the Lord Jesus through His own
words and actions in the Gospels so that they
may accept His salvation.
And that from childhood
you have known the
which are able to
make you wise for salvation
through faith which
is in Christ Jesus.
(II Timothy 3:15)
• Pray that you
will know when and how to talk to your
children about salvation and that they will
accept the Lord as their Savior as soon as
they are able.
• At the right
time, speak to your child about his need of a
Savior and how he can personally accept the
Lord Jesus Christ.
2. Help Your Children
To Develop and Grow
Teach your children to love and obey the
Lord by helping them get to know Him and what
He tells them to do in His Word.
regular Bible reading and
discussion—more than once a day if
For example, read a Psalm at the breakfast
table, work on a memory verse after lunch,
and have family Bible reading with Father.
• As soon as your
child can read, encourage him to read from
God's Word on his own at a certain time each
day. You can have him read it aloud to you
for a while until he establishes the habit of
reading on his own.
• Model Bible
reading by letting your children see, or
know, when you are reading God's Word.
importantly, show that you love God and
desire to know Him better and respond to His
message to you. Your attitude will make a
• Pray for your
children’s spiritual growth and
strength throughout their lives.
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3. Teach Your Children
To Honor Their
Teach your children to honor and obey
their father and mother in obedience to the
Lord so that they will receive His blessing
of a long and good life.
Children, obey your parents in the Lord,
for this is right.
Honor your father and mother
(which is the first
commandment with a promise),
so that it may be well with you,
and that you may
live long on the earth.
You might be tempted to think that it is
self-serving to teach your children to obey
and honor you, but it is for their
benefit. You do yourself, your
children, and their future families a grave
disservice if you do not teach and require
obedience and respect.
• Teach your
child what God says about obeying and
honoring their parents. (Exodus 20:12;
• Have your
children memorize pertinent verses. For
example, "Children, obey your parents in all
things, for this is well pleasing to the
Lord." (Colossians 3:20)
• Discuss ways of
honoring parents in word and deed.
• Model honoring
your own parents by your actions and words,
even if they live far away or are no longer
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4. Discipline and Train Your
The discipline and training of our
children is clearly ordained by God as duties
of both parents.
My son, observe the commandment of your
and do not forsake
the teaching of your mother.
Bind them continually on your heart;
Tie them around your
When you walk about, they will guide you;
When you sleep, they
will watch over you;
And when you awake,
they will talk to you.
For the commandment is a lamp
and the teaching is
And reproofs for
discipline are the way of life.
The rod and reproof give wisdom,
but a child who gets
his own way
brings shame to his
• Establish child
discipline and training in agreement with
• Study what God
says about requiring obedience, and then
present to your children a set of clear rules
along with reasons and consequences.
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Loving Command," and excellent article on
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Fabrizio (formerly printed in a now
out-of-print pamphlet entitled "Children
– Fun or Frenzy?"
Fabrizio writes, "Of all the places on
this earth's troubled globe, home must become
that place where a child knows throughout his
life he will always find unconditional
support, love, and forgiveness; a place of
pleasant histories where his soul has become
a storehouse full of good memories and
gratefulness for his parents' loving and
"For I know him, that he will command his
children and his household after him, and
they will keep the way of the Lord." (Genesis