As mothers, we have experienced the special connection with our children that gave them life and form before they were born and that nourished them as babies.

We held them, soothed them, guided and taught them as toddlers, and delighted in their growth as they began to understand and communicate with us in words.

As Christian mothers, we are in a position to supply the even-more essential life-giving Word of God to our children.

And as home schoolers, we have almost unlimited opportunities to communicate our own love and guidance, as well as the Lord’s, as they grow from children into adults.

We didn’t imagine, in the beginning, that a time could come when the distance between us and our children would be, not only great, but seemingly unbridgeable.  Yet that is what happens all too often.

What can we do to preserve and maintain the vital connection with our children that God has ordained to bless them throughout their lives?

This Mother’s Day, let us prayerfully consider ways we can connect one-on-one with each of our children and use that close and positive connection to influence our children for the Lord.

It’s easy to get so busy meeting physical and academic needs that we forget to communicate the full range of our thoughts and feelings to our children.  They begin to see us only as servants, teachers, and bosses, and develop wrong perceptions about our motives.

Yet it is in the context of our lives that our teaching has the most meaning.  We must not make the assumption that our children understand who we really are just because they are with us every day.

Words have power; use them well to open the windows of your heart to your children.

Equally important is the need to listen to our children.  You will need to help them express themselves by asking questions that draw them out and by giving them feedback that clarifies their meaning.

A mother may be able to do all the chores in half the time it takes for her children to do them, but such a policy is self-defeating on several levels.

•  Some day she will need help that is already trained and experienced to take her place—even if only for a day or week.

•  Her children will need the skills for themselves as adults.

•  Her children will be lacking the sense of accomplishment, habit of contributing to the household, and training in disciplined perseverance at menial tasks that regular chores can give them.

•  Last, but not least, is the camaraderie and feeling of partnership a mother can have with her children when they work together.

Find at least one activity that you can enthusiastically enjoy with each of your children and don’t let a week go by without meeting a set quota of fun together.

You might walk with one, drive with another, do puzzles or games, cook or sew or read or sing—it just has to be fun for both parent and child.

Take a minute or five to pray with each child at bedtime or the beginning of the day or start of an activity.

Agree together to take God’s grace for each of your concerns, specifically.  In doing so you acknowledge your own understanding and care for your child and your dependence on God's strength and wisdom.

Little spots of friction, hasty words, misunderstandings, disappointments, and conflicts of all kinds can cause your relationship with your children to grow cool and distant.  In time, resentment can build a wall between you or lead to all-out war.

To prevent this, keep short accounts on a daily or hourly basis.  Be quick to apologize, forgive, and seek reconciliation as soon as you are aware of the need.

Even when you must reprove, rebuke, or correct, do your best to communicate your lasting love and care for your child’s wellbeing.

A Christian mother recognizes the priorities of spiritual training and character development amid the duties and demands of daily life.

•  Teach your children the truths of the whole Bible, starting in Genesis with creation and ending in Revelation with the new heaven and earth.

•  Introduce your children to the Lord Jesus through His own words and actions in the Gospels so that they may accept His salvation.

•  Pray that you will know when and how to talk to your children about salvation and that they will accept the Lord as their Savior as soon as they are able.

•  At the right time, speak to your child about his need of a Savior and how he can personally accept the Lord Jesus Christ.

Teach your children to love and obey the Lord by helping them get to know Him and what He tells them to do in His Word.

•  Schedule regular Bible reading and discussion—more than once a day if possible.

For example, read a Psalm at the breakfast table, work on a memory verse after lunch, and have family Bible reading with Father.

•  As soon as your child can read, encourage him to read from God's Word on his own at a certain time each day. You can have him read it aloud to you for a while until he establishes the habit.

•  Model Bible reading by letting your children see, or know, when you are reading God's Word.

•  Most importantly, show that you love God and desire to know Him better and respond to His message to you. Your attitude will make a life-long impression.

•  Pray for your children’s spiritual growth and strength throughout their lives.

Teach your children to honor and obey their father and mother in obedience to the Lord so that they will receive His blessing of a long and good life.

You might be tempted to think that it is self-serving to teach your children to obey and honor you, but it is for their benefit.  You do yourself, your children, and their future families a grave disservice if you do not teach and require obedience and respect.

•  Teach your child what God says about obeying and honoring their parents. (Exodus 20:12; Ephesians 6:1-3)

•  Have your children memorize pertinent verses. For example, "Children, obey your parents in all things, for this is well pleasing to the Lord." (Colossians 3:20)

•  Discuss ways of honoring parents in word and deed.

•  Model honoring your own parents by your actions and words, even if they live far away or are no longer living.

The discipline and training of our children is clearly ordained by God as duties of both parents.

•  Establish child discipline and training in agreement with your husband.

•  Study what God says about requiring obedience, and then present to your children a set of clear rules along with reasons and consequences.